Ever wonder about resolutions, especially New Years resolutions, and why they don’t work?
To understand why, let’s look at the basics of resolutions and why people set them.
People have desires, wants and needs. They want to lose weight or hit the lottery, or have the money to buy a new car, so they set a resolution or goal, thinking / hoping that by setting a resolution their dream will come true. And that’s just the first mistake. Why? Because Resolutions Don’t Work.
I’ve been taught to look at a want or desire as a stick. You know – a broom handle or something similar. Hold that stick in the middle and it will balance in your hand. Hold it toward one end or the other and you have to put effort into holding it straight.
Put a label on each end of the stick and we can further demonstrate the premise. On one end is “Wanting” The other end is “Having” Starting to see where I’m going with this? Consider it a sea saw. If you put weight onto the Wanting side, the Having side moves out of balance, making it impossible to achieve the desire.
How do you make things happen? You find a way to move toward the Having side. Sure, it’s simple when said like that, but in reality it’s a bit harder. If you are always talking about what you Want, you will never have it. Why? because you are putting your thoughts and emotions into Wanting rather than Having.
How do you move to the Having side? Feelings! Start feeling how you would feel when you have reached that goal. It might be difficult to go from having a crappy car to feeling that you drive the new, shiny, ride you desire so take it in steps. Let your mind wander and look for the cars you like. Admire them, not from wanting, but from the beauty, the sleek looks, the sound, the feel. Imagine yourself sitting in the drivers seat. Smell the new smell of the leather interior. Now hold onto those feelings
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See yourself driving that shiny new car – Feel it. See yourself living in that neat new home – Feel it. See yourself writing the next best seller – Feel it. See it done!
Okay, why am I saying you should Feel rather than talk or think? It’s called the Law of Attraction. One definition of that law is: The Universe delivers more of what we think about most. But I go a bit farther. The universe cannot hear us. It only feels our emotions. So let’s rephrase the law. My definition of The Law Of Attraction is: The Universe delivers more of what we think about, with emotion.
Feel happy and the universe delivers more to be happy about. Feeling sad or angry, the universe delivers more to be sad or angry about.
With that premise in mind, let’s look at that stick again. If you are holding the wanting side in your emotional mind, the universe gives you more to want because your emotions are strong. You are demonstrating that you want more to want. Feel happy about having what you originally wanted and the universe senses that happiness, thus delivers more to be happy about.
For example let’s say you want to lose twenty pounds. You could continue to think about losing the weight, needing to lose that weight, how your clothes are too tight, how you hate looking at yourself in a mirror, etc. Continue to think those thoughts with emotion and you will never lose the weight.
What do you do? You think about how you would feel After you lose the weight! Ask yourself How will I feel when the weight is gone?
Answer that question with emotion. Some things you might say with feeling are:
Wow, I feel wonderful. I love the way I look. I love the way people look at me. I feel great. I’m excited. I’m happy. I’m alive. I’m free. I’m so comfortable at this weight, I feel sexy… Get the point?
My resolutions or goals are to find something to be happy about. Sure I have desires and I do establish them as wants. The key, as I showed above, is to feel what I would feel if my desires were already in my possession. I know they are not – Yet, but my emotions / feelings are as if they are.
Happy brings more Happy When you’re feeling happiness, the universe starts to deliver more to be happy about!
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